A story about &quot;rose-colored glasses&quot;:

A man was transferred to a new area, and had to move.   He visited a town in the area, and wanted to learn more about whether he would be happy there.  So he asked around about who was the wisest and most knowledgeable man in town, and went to the person recommended.  His question was: What are the people like here?  What is the community like?  The wise man asked back: what are the people like where you live now?  The man responded: Oh, the town where i live now has the best people.  They are warm and friendly, honest and generous. It&#039;s a wonderful place to live.  I am sorry to leave it.  The wise man responded.  The people here are just like that.  You will be happy here.

An hour later another man, considering the same move, also approached the wise man and asked the same question: What are the people like here?  What kind of community is it?  And again the wise man asked back: What are the people like where you live now?  And the second man answered:  oh, the people in my town are terrible people.  They are cold and unfriendly, they are stingy and corrupt. It&#039;s a terrible place to live.  I am happy to leave it.

And the wise man answered:  Then i am sorry to tell you the people in this town are just like that.  You will be very unhappy here.

The point is that we tend to see things, not as they are, but as we are.  People who are content and productive tend to see other people and situations in a positive light.  People who are unhappy and bitter tend to see other people and situations in a negative light.